Pansexuality is a sexual orientation characterised by a potential aesthetic attraction, romantic love and/or sexual desire for anybody, including people who do not fit into the gender binary of male/female implied by bisexual attraction. Pansexuality is sometimes described as the capacity to love a person romantically irrespective of gender. Some pansexuals also assert that gender and sex are meaningless to them.
This doesn’t mean that I’m trying to sound like an edgier version of a bisexual. I’m not a closet lesbian, I’m not making out with girls to attract guys. This isn’t ‘just a phase’, or some sort of rebellion against the status quo. I shouldn’t have to feel like I should shut up about my rainbow band/my tattoo/half the people I sleep with or date because you think it’s something to be ashamed of, or because you’ll keep your children away from me in case I give them the wrong idea.
My sexual orientation is an adjective, not a noun. It’s a part of who I am but it’s not who I am. I’m also a New Zealander, a redhead, and pale enough to deny the existence of Vitamin D. I’m a musician before I breathe, I love jumping off bridges attached to a rope, and I have a slightly unhealthy addiction to Coca-Cola. All of these things are a part of me, but none of them define me. Who I sleep with, who I fall in love with, doesn’t define me either.
No matter how far in or out of the closet you are, you still have a next step. This is mine. Be proud of who you are - whoever you are - and don’t let anyone tell you that it’s wrong. The only person who can decide what’s right for you… is you.
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